The Mom Gazette

I guess I've been a bit  busy lately!   I  apologize for the lack of personal posts !!  I  know,  I need to get roll’n.   Well I  still have a few things to  accomplish , before I get full on swing’n on this blog.  

  Today's post has been in the  making for the past week!  and I'v decided  no more Procrastinating!   it’s gotta  get done !  

OH AND !   a  big shout out to  my guest posters !!   they  pulled me out  a pinch  this week, with out them  I would not have had anything  for you all to read  this week !   - THANK- YOU-  Melissa , and Jess

How To Be a Responsible Mom and still be Young

If you think your  youth is long gone  and down the drain, then think again. You need to be a responsible mother ,  but you  don’t need to   wear mom jeans.

1. YOUR CHILD FIRST!!!  
   Keep in mind  that your son or daughter comes first!   no matter what you are  faced with.
   Before Making any big decisions about your  own life,  always ask  yourself this  question; "How  would this  Affect my child ?, is  it healthy for them or not ?”  With all that in mind you can proceed.

2. First and Foremost, BE RESPONSIBLE !!!
   Ok, yeah I know ,  this is all  about being young, but  responsibility comes when you are very young. and  assuming your parents  taught you well. you should have no troubles being  responsible.  After  all  I’m pretty sure most of us   started understanding responsibility at around 5 or 7.

3.  Don’t forget your real age.   
   I  think most  young  moms who have chosen to raise  their children tend to  get so  engulfed  in  proving we are mature enough to raise children,  that we forget who we really are or what age we really  are. I for one was telling a 19 year old about how  when I Was her age I never…. I’m 19!!! what do I MEAN when I was her age ?!!  that statement just made me look like a naggy old woman.

4. Remember, Your Friends  probably are all still 17-23.
   Don’t  forget  that your friends  probably  don’t have children. So don’t be upset when they avoid the parenting talks, the stories of your  kid and so  on. With That in Mind….

5. Avoid Talking About Your Child  While Around Your Friends.
   It is not wrong to  talk about your child  to  your friends, but learn to know  when its a good time !  Nothing kills a conversation more than when you steer the  convo towards  how adorable your kid is. Plus most of your friends probably , aren't even imagining having kids.
   
   
   
   
   
6. Don’t Hang Out  with People Who make you  uncomfortable  about your choices.
   Choosing to carry a baby  full term  is  a big accomplishment.  To want to raise that baby all the way to adulthood is amazing in itself ! So ,  of course  there will be those who  won’t think you are up to the game or that  you are wasting your life, and those people will try to bring you down.   Avoid them.  They will blur your judgement of what it means to be a good parent.
   
   
   
   
   
7. Don’t Dress Like a MoM.  
   Sure you are a mom! but seriously, it doesn't mean you can slack off on looking good, or  start wearing them mom jeans and button up polo shirts.  Also avoid wearing mom hair.
   
   
   
8. Dress, Accordingly!
   Ok, well   we said  not  to wear MoM gear,  But  there are also things to keep  mind when dressing though. If you are  nursing , whatever you wear, whether you chose to  nurse in public, or pump  while out, has to be easy to do it in. So,  don’t wear the one piece jump suit you think you look hot in. If you  aren't  planning on doing  any of those things , or don’t  do them to begin with, then there is no problem.
   BUT!  if you are bringing your child with you,  keep in mind, that color  should matter. so no whites, or light colors. or anything that is dry clean.
   
   
   
9. Don’t Take Your Child to Parties.
   or any where that will have drugs, alcohol, or loud music. It is not a healthy environment.
   It doesn't mean you can’t go,  but keep in mind you are a parent who is trying to prove she can raise a baby at a young age. So don’t be stupid and leave your kid with your parents , just so you can get wasted. Not worth it.
   
   
   
   
   
10. Take a Small Break from Your Child.
    FIRST!  taking a weekend off from parenting or a night off,  is a “PRIVILEGE NOT A RIGHT” so with that in mind, try to once every 3 months take a  day or weekend off from parenting to get in touch with your inner teenageness, we know the need and desire to be young and free is still there so  take a moment to acknowledge it.
     Keep in mind that  different children react differently to how long a parent is gone for,  so  choose   how long you are going to be gone from  your kid according to  his habits. If they are used to nursing in the middle of the night , then its  best not to be gone overnight wait  until  you’ve  overnight weaned.  Also if you are going to be gone  overnight  leave your child  with  someone who  you  fully trust and  who your child knows  really well.  Don’t be gone for more than a week-end.
    
    
    
    
    

11. Remember that You are Still You
and that's all there is to that. sure you had a kid grew up a bit, but I bet you still sleep with that dingy old teddy-bear - come on  now…  admit it !